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Revealing Your True Self to the Online Community

Revealing Your True Self to the Online Community

Lasting relationships are often founded on trust. This is best manifested by how people react whenever they learn that their partner has deceived them or tricked them into believing something that is not true. The same is true with relationships that have its roots in online dating sites. While many people assume that it is rather same to lie about their identities online, in most situations however, this fraud has often resulted into heartbreaks.

One of the most common tricks online dating sites users do is to lie about their identities. I’m guilty of doing the same way back in my early years. The trend is, we are inclined to putting our best foot forward in our profiles, in extreme cases, we are even willing to put someone else’s foot forward just to get the kind of response that we so desire.

As a result, we would only upload PhotoShopped images of our best shots. We would pretend that we graduated that this university or that. We would lie about our family background, our likes and dislikes, even about our own personalities. In the process, we have created a different persona online and this is the person who we introduce to the people we meet with eager anticipation that they will like the person who we present ourselves to be.

Of course, because this persona is so tailored-fit to attract the kind of crowd that we want, we will most likely get loads of possitive responses. Men and women alike will find themselves very much drawn to our supposed identity and in the process, we get to meet that one person who we will fall head over heels with.

Then the sad truth comes out. They would realize that they have lied about ourselves the entire time. They would hate us, despise us, even unfriend and block us! We then feel the weight of the earth — depression, defeat and feeling of unwantedness; all of which could have been avoided had we been truer about ourselves.

What we need to realize is that our own personality is enough to attack people to us; and the ones who get attacked for who we really are, are the ones who are most likely to stick around. If you are really after a good relationship and if you are using online dating sites services to find it, then might as well start out right. Reveal your real self and be ready for the possible rejections because that’s all part of the deal. In the end, someone will come along who will definitely like you just the way you are.

We should not forget that the internet is not created so that we can go on deceiving other people. Take it from this perspective: if you lie about yourself, you are not just hurting yourself (by validating that you just can’t accept who you are) but you are also hurting others (those who thought they have finally found their match because they saw your tailored-fit profile). In the end, what is still more important is that you have found your one true love; and I tell you the truth, true love don’t come to those who can’t even learn to love themselves.